Life is a very confusing thing but I think I’m finally making sense of mine. All things happen for a reason even the bad ones. Its just you cant always see this when its happening or even shortly afterwards. Reflection is a key point in remembering what happened and how it affected you and examining it from all angles to get a better grip on the situation. I’m an introvert so I need my alone time to figure things out which is where January and indeed the entire festive season is actually quite useful in figuring out what I’m going to do for the next year. I have Aspergers so I like schedule and routines so I like it very much when I’m at my in-laws and we do jobs in the morning, lunch, computer work then we will come together for a snack around tea and eat dinner then a movie. This is most days and I like the orderliness. This applies even when we are abroad as its how they do things on the continent and frankly I think its much better as it works with your body to get the most out of a day rather than against it.
As to writing which I have now decided to dedicate my life to, write what you know, (autism), write about something that is unique to yourself; a USP or unique selling point in business terms, (autism), also write about something that interests you and you can devote some time to (autism). When all these happen to be the same thing then that is a good idea. We need to stop worrying about the opinions of others and do what makes you feel good and happy. It is said that we all have a book in us but how many actually fulfil that dream? I like the advert that’s currently on TV encouraging us to write that book and invent that life changing device or what ever else you really want to do in your heart of hearts but you are afraid to show the light of day.
My mum said not to worry too much about my career as it would all be sorted by the time I was 30 and although it took a bit longer as I’m 31 that doesn’t matter as everything else has taken longer in my life to happen as I’m not doing anything the conventional way. Those that strike a new path endure the most hardships but are rewarded for there efforts very much like those that ski the first powder of the day before anybody else has put there imprint on it.
Life is hard but when you find your true calling it is a lot easier. Sure I’m not the best cook in the world but luckily my mother taught me well and when I’m at my in-laws my 2nd mother does it all as she is excellent. Others things I’m not good at are interacting with the public on the phone so others in the family company do that. My husband works very diligently to earn the money for us so that I can concentrate on my strengths which are research and writing. I knew never would have thought I would be good at writing at school as maths was my forte but life happens, you change and now I am.
I like the fact I have a good team (my family members) behind me supporting me as everybody needs help to achieve there potential in life. Good things come to those who wait as the Guinness advert says. It can be difficult to wait for them if your a bit impulsive like myself but patience is rewarded. You just need to find effective coping strategies to deal with the interim time. Just make sure there productive uses of time although productive doesn’t have to mean earn money.
So you see Aspergers and Autism is not a curse , only if the person is handled incorrectly. Autistic people can flourish if given the right environment. We should reap the benefit from allowing autistic people into the workforce like the Israeli Army are doing or the Danish company The Specialist and even some big tech companies are getting on the band wagon. A mind is a terrible thing to waste so with a little adaptation the world can be a much richer place with all these new ideas that are sure to come about with the inclusion of a different set of people. Neurodiversity for the win 😉